By Waliu Adeyeri
The 5 people you should never marry are not the Filipinos of the Philippines, Red Indians of America, Swahili of East Africa, Slovenes of Slovenia, nor the Maoris tribe of New Zealand, they are people who are Proud, Selfish, Lazy, Disrespectful, and Ignorant.
Have you heard people say they can’t marry a member of a community? Just because they believe those from that community have a particular trait they cannot cope with. Truth be told, the society does not shape your character.
Although, this fact may negate the behaviourist school of thought that “all behaviors are learned through interaction with the environment.” But, I don’t believe there’s any community that condones all the five bad attitudes stated above.
HERE ARE THE 5 PEOPLE YOU SHOULD NEVER MARRY
PROUD: Pride is defined as “a high or inordinate opinion of one’s own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, whether as cherished in the mind or as displayed in bearing, conduct, etc.” Proud people see themselves higher than others, they don’t accept they make mistakes neither do they feel remorseful for any mistake committed.
Best way to identify them is their inability to apologise whenever they hurt you or anyone around them. They find it debasing to say ‘sorry’ many times.
SELFISH PEOPLE: Selfish persons care less about other people’s feelings, desires, wants and needs. All they are after is satisfying themselves mostly at the detriment of others. Remember, marriage is a lifetime contract that involves two bodies joined as one to build generations. Is that the kind of person you’d like to spend the rest of your life with?
LAZY PEOPLE: Another Category of people you should never settle with. A lazy person according to Merriam Webster, is a person who is “disinclined to activity or exertion.” Lazy people pass on laziness, hence, hamper success.
Easiest ways to identify lazy people: they procrastinate almost all their essential tasks, they are not progressive. Many times they give reasons not to try, they often nurture pessimism because they are not ready to make things happen.
You wouldn’t want to plan your future with a lazy person. Else, you want your child inherit futility.
DISRESPECTFUL PEOPLE: How do you cope with someone that has no regard for you, your feelings, your family, your career, and your future? One of the important qualities expected of anyone is respect. People who do not respect others tend to be hostile.
Jeremy Edge identifies 3 benefits of being respectful:
- Soften hearts of everyone around you, you tend to gain soft spots in the hearts of everyone around you.
- It drives people to listen more to you.
- It builds relationship and trust.
IGNORANT PEOPLE: The last category of people you should never marry are the ignoramus. They are ignorant yet do not want to seek knowledge.
Do not miscontrue literacy and knowledge. Someone can be literate yet be ignorant (lacks knowledge). Don’t settle for less, ensure that your partner is striving to learn some of the basic rudiments needed to make a better partner and a better home.
It’s incontrovertible that no one is perfect, also, it is man to err. You should also understand that learning from mistakes, evaluating oneself are essentials of becoming a better you.
Should you or your partner belong to any of these communities; pride, selfishness, laziness, disrespectful, and ignorance, call on each other, correct and evaluate each other and allow what binds you (love) guide you on how to make amends.
There’s no perfect Relationship but you can make your relationship STRONG.