Relationship is hard work. Once you’ve moved past the initial period of infatuation, often referred to as “the honeymoon phase” reality sinks in.
You start to get a deeper sense of who someone is and whether or not they might be right for you.
However, before you blame your partner for not being Right, you have to ensure you are doing the right things, for example, your willingness to sacrifice for the other person, as long as it doesn’t affect your values.
Here are 9 signs your partner is right for you or signs you can incorporate to be a right partner:
1. You can meet in the middle
The key to any successful relationship is compromise. The way you are able to compromise and negotiate with a partner should be a key indicator of how well suited you both are. If you find it easy to meet in the middle when you are in disagreement about something, then probably you guys are right for each other.
2. They make you feel good about yourself
The right person for you will empower you to be your most confident self, says dating coach James Preece. Wave goodbye to partners who have you constantly questioning your thoughts and appearance, that’s a clear red flag something isn’t right. A good partner wants you to be happy and not to doubt yourself.
3. They will be a good listener
A good partner will listen attentively to everything you have to say, regardless of how boring it might seem to you. It might mean you’re listening to them ranting about the flaws in your work colleagues for the majority of an evening, but it’s important for them to feel heard and listened to.
The ability to hear each other, and to give the other space to feel heard, even if the content of the discussion isn’t of interest to us as an individual, shows that person that they are worthy of our time and attention.
4. You have similar core values
You don’t need to have the exact same interests as a potential long-term partner. In fact, sometimes it helps to have completely different ones – it gives you something to talk about.
But if you want a long-term relationship with someone, you must make sure you are both going in the same direction in terms of your life goals and your core values.You are a team and need to be on the same page. This requires you both aligning on what’s important to you in life
5. You have healthy discussions when you disagree
Arguments are not necessarily a bad thing in a relationship. In fact, depending on how you handle them, they can be integral to the longevity of a partnership. Every discussion doesn’t have to be an argument.
But with the right person, you should be able to express opposing or different views without it causing relationship breakdown or fractures.
6. You aren’t afraid to tell them what’s on your mind
When you are with the right person, there is no judgment. Or at least there shouldn’t be.You should feel free to be yourself and show all sides of your personality. If something is on your mind, you prefer to get it out in the open quickly rather than bottling it up.
The best thing is that when this happens with someone who is good for you, they will be able to listen and help when you have a problem.
7. They offer you their undivided attention
There’s nothing worse than being in the middle of speaking to someone and noticing they’re scrolling through Instagram.The right partner won’t do that. They will be completely present in your company, which is an important part of human connection and demonstrates our value to that person.
8. Your friends and family love them
It might sound obvious, but if your loved ones get on swimmingly with the person you’re dating, it’s usually a pretty good sign.
The people around you are going to be a great judge of character and probably know you better than you know yourself.
9. They do little things for you
A gesture needn’t be grand to be romantic. In fact, sometimes it’s the small and subtle gestures that mean the most. You don’t have to spend a lot of money or spoil your partner rotten for them to know that you are thinking of them.
An affectionate text, or simply reaching out for their hand can be a meaningful gesture. If you’re dating someone who does these things, it’s usually a good sign that they care for you deeply.
Culled from INDEPENDENT